For All the Dads

9 Feb

We were watching the Olympics the other night, and the commercial thanking moms for all the sacrifices they made came on.  Because of dedicated mothers, we have Olympic athletes.  But apparently, only because of the moms.

Then today, I saw this on my Twitter feed – “A Love Letter to All the Tired Mamas Everywhere” – a letter gushing about everything all the moms do. But just the moms.

It seems these days, we’re so caught up in Celebrating Motherhood, we forget that there are dads out there too.  I’ve been a parent for <holy crap> seventeen years, and as weathered and wise as I am in all this motherhood stuff, I am thankful every day for the man who has been my partner in this rollercoaster.

So guys, this one’s for you –


For the dads who stood by for nine months as their wife battled emotions and cravings, and were always ready to run to Taco Bell at 11:30 at night in a snowstorm because her need for a burrito was so great she was crying over it…

For the dads who hung around the hospital rooms, holding hands, bothering nurses, seeing things they could never unsee, and still exclaiming afterwards “You HAVE to see your child born, it’s the most wonderful thing!”…

For the dads who tucked their over-tired spouses back into bed and spent an hour bouncing a baby at 3 am, then got up for work at 6 am…

For the dads who were peed upon while changing diapers, who tried to figure out the must-have adorable but many buttoned outfit their wife bought, who didn’t question why their non-walking child needed $60 leather booties but just agreed that they were, indeed, adorable…

For the dads who said “Honey, you sleep in, I’ll deal with the toddler this morning.”…

For the dads who stayed up until 3 am on Christmas morning putting together play kitchens, doll houses, and train tables…

For the dads who let their kids roll in the mud, climb the big playset, wade in the creek and eat ice cream before dinner, then happily accepted the stink-eye from the mom when they all got home and exclaimed that they were all enjoying childhood…

Spring 2004

For the dads who rushed from work to make it to parent/teacher conferences, band concerts, ballet recitals, and doctor appointments…

For the dads who were the main participants in Nerf gun battles, snowball fights and water wars, while mom laughed safely in the background taking pictures…

April 2005

For the dads who sat home and watched Disney Channel with kids while mom went out with her friends…

For the dads who have survived one too many chicken nugget dinners…

For the dads who stepped up and volunteered to coach a team because there wasn’t anyone else, who stood on sidelines in rain, sleet and snow to cheer the kids on…

For the dads who cleaned up vomit at 1 am, who ran out at 11 pm to buy more popsicles for the feverish child, who stayed in the ER room for his child’s stitches and cracked jokes to make the situation easier…

For the dads who helped with homework, bought poster boards and glitter glue for projects, and researched the right backpacks, who made lunches and ran to the store at 7 am because they were out of bread or juice boxes…

For the dads who opened up homemade Father’s Day gifts and beamed at the handiwork, who have their child’s drawing framed on his desk at the office…

For the dads who teach their children how to mow lawns, cook eggs, set up wifi, and all sorts of life lessons on their Saturday mornings…


For the dads who brave The Talk with their sons, and inwardly cringe the first time their baby girl wears make up, and teaches them all how to be safe drivers when the time comes…

For the dads who spend more time researching college options because even though their kids are almost adults, they’re still invested in giving their child the best start in life…

For the dads with children who have special needs – for those men who stuck around, who stuck it out, who embrace all their children equally, who have argued with doctors and special ed directors, who fight for their child every day, and ensure they have the fullest, happiest life…

To all the dads out there who never get enough credit for what they do…

Thank you.



19 Responses to “For All the Dads”

  1. Jessica February 9, 2014 at 3:47 pm #

    Amazing 🙂

  2. Amy Shelley February 9, 2014 at 3:54 pm #

    Well said!

  3. Not Thatex February 9, 2014 at 4:06 pm #

    … And for the bf’s/stepdad’s who steps up to do all these things when the biological father walks away…

  4. Not Thatex February 9, 2014 at 4:07 pm #

    … And for all the bf’s/stepdad’s who step up to do these things when the biological father walks away…

  5. Liz Palika February 9, 2014 at 4:24 pm #


  6. Miz Kp February 9, 2014 at 6:21 pm #

    Thanks for this wonderful post. My husband is a great dad and dads like him should never be taken for granted.

  7. Deanna M Rogowski February 9, 2014 at 6:22 pm #

    well said – and yes, to the boy friends and step dads and uncles and granddads who step in and step up to do all of exactly those things too. I find it really does “take a village” whatever your village is made of… all the best in the parenting adventures.

  8. Travis Williams February 9, 2014 at 6:50 pm #

    From a stay at home dad to a 4yr old precious autistic daughter I say thanks. Wife busts her butt 12hr shifts which equal 15hr days as a nurse and I do the rest. Bills, Dr’s, IEP’s, diapers, dinners, cooking, cleaning, dusting, commodes, oil changes, cartoons, ipad apps, research, insurance nightmares, blankies, favorite toys lost and replaced (thanks ebay), and all the rest…..yes a dad can do it and I would not have it otherwise. It would be damn nice to be acknowledged occasionally though by mass media instead of having commercials that make all dad’s look like idiots that can’t do ANYTHING without a woman’s help. I love my wife and daughter with all I have and don’t expect a lot of gold stars or thanks for all I do, but I am tired of being a joke to a lot of media experts out there that don’t have a clue about real life … Off soapbox- Thanks!

  9. Alzbeta February 9, 2014 at 8:38 pm #

    Yes. Aren’t dads wonderful?

    • franhunne4u February 9, 2014 at 11:48 pm #

      Not all of them, Alzbeta, but yes, those who take their Dad-being seriously are!

  10. Bo Wright February 10, 2014 at 9:22 am #

    Thank you for this.

  11. patydesouza1985 February 10, 2014 at 11:45 am #

    Amazing, very interesting!!!!

  12. andthreemakesfive February 10, 2014 at 4:08 pm #

  13. mmiller February 11, 2014 at 5:23 pm #

    Incredible post! So well said!

  14. Grace February 12, 2014 at 6:32 pm #

    How about we put an end to the Mom vs Dad Wars and commend all the PARENTS out there for all the time, energy, sacrifices, and love the put into their children whether they be moms, dads, single, married, working, or stay at home. Any of your commendation (same goes for all the mother love out there) can apply to mom or dad.

  15. emcclure2010 February 15, 2014 at 12:37 pm #

    Awww sniffle…My dad was one of those awesome dads. 4 kids (one with autism) who did indeed stay up til ungodly hours putting my dollhouse together (he cursed those individual shingles for years), who did change diapers, worked long days as a plumber but still came to conferences, back to schools, IEPs. He even came to grandparents day bc our grandparents didn’t live nearby. He coached multiple Special Olympics teams and stood by all his kids (and his wife, of course) to the end which came all too soon when we were all too young (21 down to 12). It’s been 12+ years since he died but man we miss him. Thanks for reminding us of the dads who do all the same awesome stuff as moms.


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