about me

I may be on the side of the angels, but don’t think for one second that I am one of them. – Sherlock

photo by Elisha Clarke
photo by Elisha Clarke

Phoebe is a <insert age here> year old writer and mother of four, one of whom has special needs.  She spends her time avoiding housework,  searching for the tiny dog, and buying food for teenagers to consume instantly  – all while holding onto the dream of becoming an actual paid published author someday. Phoebe has lived in several states, spent two and a half years in Ireland, and is currently residing near Seattle.

Phoebe discovered she had a talent for writing during her sophomore year of high school, when her class was assigned a project – writing a Gothic Romance of at least five paragraphs.  Phoebe’s novella, “Test of Thyme”, was several chapters long, exceedingly sappy, and earned her an A+ from the teacher who had up to that point hated every paper she had written.  She has been blogging for several years, and has contributed to Huffington PostBust,  Scary Mommy, BonBon Break, The Mighty,  HLN, and Health Magazine.

photo by Josh Holmes


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Came here because of my post “Being Retarded” and want to know more about Maura? Click here.

11 replies to about me
  1. I read the post about the use of the word retarted. I am the mom of 4 children, three daughters, and one son with special needs. After reading, your post, I felt that stumbled across a kindred spirit. My son is 30 and lives with us, the girls 28, 25, and 23 are still close by. I agree with your statement that people don’t use the word retarded maliciously for the most part. I have had friends apologize for saying it and although I noticed it, I recognized that it was merely a faux pas. Best of luck with your writing.

  2. Reading your bio made me chuckle. We have much in common…including avoiding housework, learning crafts that I just have buy all the fun supplies for and warping our children. LOL
    We have three sons that are 21, 17 and 20 months (that is NOT a typo). Our 17 year old is severly disabled and has taught us so much about people.
    I enjoyed your blog post “being retarded” very much and will continue to share it over and over.
    Keep up the good work you are doing.

  3. I cherish what you wrote in “Being Retarded”. I have 3 kids: 1, 3, and 5. My 5 year old daughter has Down Syndrome and is so loving to everyone. I have worked in middle and high schools for the last 10 years and this word is a sickness. Everything you said was spot on. Sometimes I feel that I am on a one-woman mission to end this word. I hope to see it happen within my lifetime. I want to thank you and I look forward to your published works! Sarah

  4. So happy to find your blog. The post on Being Retarded was outstanding. We live in the rural Santa Cruz mountains, California, and even here we encounter the word on a regular basis. We each react differently depending on the circumstance and our mood, but my 10 year old Josh who is mentally impaired aka mentally retarded, he cannot defend himself. You’ve inspired me in many ways, thank you! I’m going to go not clean my house now and force fun crafts and snuggled on my family instead!

  5. I saw your kids names and thought, “She must be Irish!” Then I scrolled down and saw where you live. Oh- Love that you are in Dublin. Jealous actually!! We just came back from a two week visit in October. Ireland stole my heart and I can’t wait to get there again someday. Jealous…… =)

  6. I’m glad I’ve stumbled on your post, I have a 8 year old son, Liam, 4 year old son Jude and a 7 month old daughter named Sinead. Sinead was born with Downs’ syndrome. I never realized my use of the word until she was born. My husband is from Co. Kerry Ireland, a town called Tralee. We have often discussed if the resources would be better for her there.

  7. I came across your post because the Special Olympics office here re-posted it on Facebook. I felt like we were one in the same. You said so eloquently everything I want to say to people when they use that word. I typically just flick people in the head (really). Fantastic article. And, like Diane said above, I felt like I found a kindred spirit.

  8. I too am someone with a cognitive disability I hate the word retarded. I am just like anyone else. I have a job and do things anyone else does. So next time people see a disabled person maybe they will think twice about calling them retarded.

  9. I have to know- why the move to Dublin? My husband is Colin (one “L”) from Cork, Ireland. I am American- we live in the States- 5 kids, 2 boys with severe ADHD (one- 14 possibly Aspergers or other, either way, mild special needs-though it doesn’t feel very mild to me at times). Jacob-17, Andrew-14, Samantha-12, Chloe-3 and Fiona- 7 months. I would love to move to Ireland but my hubby is like, been there, done that, and it’s expensive…just wondering?

    1. My husband likes to move, and always wanted to try living in Europe (he’s traveled to this side of the ocean for business on many occasions.) I was more of a homebody, and liked staying in one place, so we did for the most part. We vacationed here in the fall of 2008, and I fell in love with the place, even though it wasn’t quite what I expected. A couple months later, I had this “Wow, life is short” moment in a bookstore, and told my husband “Let’s move to Ireland.” (Part of Ireland as the destination is that it’s English speaking…Maura has enough issues, we don’t need to add a language barrier, lol!) Eventually, the right position opened up and we ended up here. It is expensive, but you buy less. Except at school time, then you plunk down hefty amounts for uniforms and books (you have to buy your books here.)

  10. I really appreciated your post on ‘Being Retarded.’ I’m in my 5th year of teaching and and would love to share this with some of my older students and put it in ‘kid terms’ for some of my little ones (I teach 1st-8th grade Spanish).

    I also love that you’re living in Dublin! I made my first trip to Ireland at the end of October where I ran the Dublin Marathon as a part of the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society’s Team in Training. I fell in love with Ireland and the people! I’m actually looking for opportunities to spend more time in Ireland whether it be working on my Masters, teaching or being an au pair. I too want to be a published author someday. 🙂 Thank you for what you’re doing to inspire others. Your kids and husband are quite blessed!

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